Arg

Just a sunday (morning?) cry for help. I'm not usually a fan of Maureen Dowd, feeling that she's quite high on the drama and sniping, and quite low on the content. However, this is an unfortunately accurate snapshot:

Feminism or Bust?

My cynical side though, knows there are some people getting the short shrift in coverage here. Because what is always missing from this conversation, humourously enough, are the men. And maybe this was the failing of the 1970s feminism: we can't, in fact, do it alone. Which does't make it not worth doing. But its not about making things different just for women, its about making things different. Women can't have husbands, and childrens, and world changing careers - unless they have partners, not just "husbands" (the quotes making it a pejorative term). We don't win on childcare in the workplace or taking a sick day for our babies until *gasp* the men, who ALL HAVE CHILDREN, do the same. Its that kind of equality that we are missing, that we are striving for. And it comes as no surprise (or it shouldn't) that maybe the kind of man that requires one to simper, supress, and surrender is not the sort of man who is going to step up to the plate for women with children to be the same as men with children - still human beings. The big lie about the "big choice" (work or family, work or family..) is that its only our choice.

And here I take a minute and say - thanks Mark. Because every rant like this requires acknowledgement of the fact that there are plenty of good men who are completely on board with not just marrying their secretaries.

Happy Sunday.